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The Mother Wound: A Story of Pain, Perspective, and the Path to Healing

The mother wound runs deep—but so does the strength to heal it. In this personal reflection, I explore how shifting from blame to compassion helped me uncover not only my mother’s wounds but my own power to break the generational cycle. This is the story of pain, perspective, and healing—for ourselves, our mothers, and the lineage we come from.

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The Power of Self-Worth: You Are Already Enough

For years, I believed my worth was something I had to earn.
If I looked better, worked harder, or achieved more—then I’d finally feel like I was enough.
But no amount of accomplishment could fill the quiet gap left by self-doubt.
The truth is, self-worth isn’t found in doing—it’s found in remembering who you are.
This post explores how your sense of worth silently shapes your life, how to reclaim it, and why believing you’re enough might be the most powerful thing you ever do.

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Are Your Sticky Thoughts Holding You Back?

Are your thoughts holding you hostage? We all have sticky thoughts and emotions that replay in our minds—regrets, self-doubt, or painful memories that refuse to let go. They drain our energy, steal our joy, and keep us stuck in the past. But what if you could break free? Letting go is possible with the right tools and mindset. Discover how to release what no longer serves you and reclaim your peace. Ready to start your journey to freedom?
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How Do We Heal the Wounds of Guilt, Shame, Regret, and Self-Judgment?

 Discover the path to healing from guilt, shame, regret, and self-judgment. 
Join us as we explore practical steps and heartfelt stories to reclaim your peace and self-love. Start your journey to a brighter, more compassionate self today.

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RECOGNIZING DARVO: What is the DARVO Method?

 Understanding psychological manipulation tactics is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships and protecting oneself from abuse. DARVO, an acronym for Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender, is a common strategy used by narcissists to confuse, shame, and silence their victims. In this blog post, we'll explore what DARVO is, share a personal experience, delve into its psychological roots, and discuss how to recognize and handle this damaging manipulation tactic. If you've ever felt bewildered or doubted your reality in a relationship, this post will help you identify and break free from the cycle of abuse.
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When Talking to Yourself, Whose Voice Are You Hearing?

 For years, I was stuck in a harmful loop, constantly telling myself, “I am not good enough.”
Most of us struggle with some variation of the “I’m not good enough, I don’t deserve, I am not worthy” track playing in our heads. It's a powerful habit that can sabotage all your efforts to change or achieve anything!
This self-defeating mindset can prevent you from applying for your dream job, accepting a date, venturing into entrepreneurship, writing the book you’ve always wanted to, or even trying out a new hairstyle. The variations of "I'm not slim enough," "I'm not smart enough," or simply "not enough," are endless, and your mind likely knows exactly what your personal "not enough" is.
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From Self-Doubt to Self-Love: My Journey of Transformation

 Navigating the trendy seas of “Love yourself”, “Be yourself” and “Be happy” feels a bit like being handed a map without any directions. Everyone tells you where to go, but nobody shows you how to get there. So when someone tossed the “You have to love yourself more” advice my way a few years back, as my life seemed to veer off course, I was stumped. “But how?” I quizzed, genuinely puzzled. Their response? “The same way you love your children, or anyone truly dear to you.” 
Hmm, easier said than done, I thought.
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Demystifying the Chakras

 Embark on a transformative journey into the realm of chakras, the ancient energy system deeply rooted in Indian philosophy, designed to enhance our physical, mental, and spiritual health. This holistic roadmap comprises seven primary energy centers aligned along the spine, each intricately connected to various aspects of our being—ranging from basic survival instincts to our potential for spiritual enlightenment. Understanding and balancing these chakras can lead to profound improvements in how we feel physically, emotionally, and spiritually, indicating that the health of our chakras can significantly affect our overall well-being.

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Learning to Say No: Breaking Free from Being a People Pleaser

 For far too long, I have been part of the 'want to please' crowd, always jumping in to help, listen, and do whatever I could for others. Learning to prioritize self-care and setting boundaries not only reduced my exhaustion but also immensely enriched my life.

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The Joy and Necessity of Home Cooking: A Journey Through My Kitchen

Homemade Chicken Soup: A Staple in My Kitchen
In my homeland, many families cherish their Sunday dinners with a steaming pot of homemade chicken soup. This tradition wasn't limited to Sundays in my family home; it was also our remedy for illness. I've proudly carried on this "chicken soup" tradition.

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My Self-Care And Self-Love Journey

My Self-Care And Self-Love Journey
 Self-care and self-love are essential for mental well-being. They guide us to treat ourselves with kindness and respect. This blog post will take you through my journey of self-care and self-love, sharing some of my routines, habits, and reflections.

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The Physical Symptoms of Not Loving Yourself – And How To Address Them

Discover how not loving yourself can manifest in physical symptoms like constant fatigue, frequent illness, concentration troubles, and feelings of anxiety or depression. Learn actionable strategies to prioritize self-care, improve your well-being, and embrace self-love. Transform your life with simple steps towards a healthier, happier you. Click to unlock the secrets to addressing the physical signs of self-neglect and embark on a journey to self-love and holistic health.
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Project: Gratitude

 When was the last time you expressed gratitude for something in your life? If you can't remember, it's time to start practicing gratitude! Did you know that practicing gratitude has many benefits, including improved mental and physical health, increased happiness, and reduced stress level?
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I've always felt there must be more to life than just going to school, working, cooking, and cleaning. 
Growing up, this was my mother’s routine, and for a long time, I thought it was mine to follow as well. I believed life was predetermined—shaped by social status and the expectations of those around us. Our family didn’t hold any special status, and I struggled with feelings of inadequacy. I thought of myself as ugly, too short, too heavy—frankly, I didn't like myself much at all.

But as I grew older, I began to feel a growing discomfort. I knew deep down that I wanted something different from life, something more. It took me years to understand that we are often shaped by others' expectations—parents, teachers, society—and that we can lose our true identity when we conform to someone else's vision of who we should be. I fell into that trap, and it led to poor decisions and a deep yearning for love, attention, and happiness. But no matter how hard I searched, I couldn’t find it outside of myself.

Growing up in Eastern Europe had a profound effect on my belief system. I didn’t feel like I had a voice, and when my family immigrated to Canada, that feeling intensified. I didn’t speak English, and the frustration of not being able to express myself made me feel even more lost and isolated. I struggled to belong, feeling like I didn’t fit in anywhere, and that emotional rollercoaster was slowly breaking me down. I had no idea who I was or what my purpose was on this planet.

To make matters worse, as I entered menopause, my health started to deteriorate. I felt sore, exhausted, uncomfortable, and trapped in a body that wasn’t listening to me. I was desperate for relief. Does any of this sound familiar?

For years, I struggled to reconnect with my true self, but I never gave up. I knew in my heart that the key to peace, happiness, and health was finding and following my own path. After countless books, webinars, and guidance from holistic teachers and coaches, I finally realized something powerful: I could rewrite my own story. I wasn’t stuck with the old programming I had absorbed—I could change the narrative.

Was it easy? Absolutely not. But the journey was worth every step. Rebuilding myself from the inside out, letting go of limiting beliefs, and embracing my body—just as it is—allowed me to finally live a life of joy and fulfillment. I’m still a work in progress, but that’s part of the beauty of life: it’s always evolving.
Through self-care, self-love, and total acceptance of who I am, I gained the confidence and courage to live a life of true freedom. Now, I am the author of my own fairy tale, fully owning my story and loving myself along the way. It’s the bravest thing I’ve ever done.

If you’re looking for inspiration or simply someone to share your journey with, let’s connect! I would love to hear your story, answer your questions, or just chat. Feel free to message me on social media or email me anytime—I’d love to hear from you!

xoxo

Urszula

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