This morning, as I sipped my coffee and scrolled through my usual reads, I came across a quote by Pope Francis that stopped me in my tracks:
"The perfect family doesn’t exist, nor is there a perfect husband or a perfect wife, and let’s not talk about the perfect mother-in-law. It’s just us sinners. A healthy family life requires frequent use of three phrases: ‘May I?’ ‘Thank you,’ and ‘I’m sorry.’”
Isn’t that the truth?

We live in a world that constantly pressures us to strive for perfection—perfect parenting, perfect relationships, a picture-perfect home. Social media doesn’t help, with its curated snapshots that make it seem like everyone else has it all figured out.

But real family life is rarely tidy or polished.
It’s messy. It’s noisy. It’s full of missed cues, misunderstandings, and moments where we fall short. And that’s okay.
Because what matters most isn’t getting it all right—it’s showing up with love and trying again. Over and over.
Those three phrases Pope Francis mentioned—“May I?”, “Thank you,” and “I’m sorry”—sound simple, but they carry immense power.
  • “May I?” shows respect. It softens assumptions and invites connection. Even those we live with deserve to be asked, not expected.
  • “Thank you.” Spoken appreciation has the power to transform even the hardest moments. Gratitude builds bridges where criticism burns them.
  • “I’m sorry.” The hardest and most healing words. Not about shame, but about humility. It open the door to repair and say, “I care. I want to do better.”

A family rooted in these small acts of love is not a perfect family—but it’s a conscious one. A connected one. A healing one.

Let’s be honest—it’s not always easy to live this way.
Especially when you’re carrying trauma—your own, or the kind passed down silently through generations. Especially when you’re exhausted, overwhelmed, overworked, and running on fumes.
When your nervous system is shot, when your boundaries are leaky, when your emotional tank is on empty… being kind or gracious can feel like one more impossible task.

I know that feeling well. I’ve lived it—until I was pushed by the universe to make radical changes. My wake-up call was hard, and I had three options: keep doing what I was doing and live in misery, die, or make radical changes, rise like a phoenix, and restore my health and joy.

I stopped waiting for the people around me to change or behave better—I chose radical responsibility for my own healing.

Holistic self-care became my turning point. And not just the pretty, Instagrammable kind. I’m talking about soul-deep care:
  • Setting boundaries—and holding them.
  • Tending to my body with rest, nourishment, and movement that feels good.
  • Clearing my mind of clutter, comparison, and chaos.
  • Facing the hard stuff—healing childhood wounds, unlearning toxic patterns, and releasing ancestral burdens that were never mine to carry.
It wasn’t about becoming perfect. 
It was about becoming present—grounded, aware, and clear enough to show up. 
Not as a flawless version of myself, but as a real one.

The more I healed, the more I could pause before reacting. 
The more I could offer grace instead of judgment. 
The more I could say “thank you” and mean it. 
The more I could say “I’m sorry” without shame.

One thing I want you to remember: who you are today was shaped by the choices and beliefs you’ve carried from the past.
But who you become tomorrow starts right now—with what you choose in this moment, in this breath, in this cup of coffee.

You create your life. This is your power—and you have the freedom to choose every time you make a decision.
You don’t have to fix everything overnight. You don’t have to be the perfect parent, partner, or person. You just have to begin—with one intentional act of care, for yourself and for the people you love.
So take a deep breath. Offer yourself grace. Sip your coffee slowly. And remember:
You don’t need to be perfect to be deeply, powerfully loving.
You just need to keep showing up.

Have you ever felt the pressure to “get it all right”? 
What helps you stay grounded and real in your relationships? 
I’d love to hear—share your thoughts in the comments.

Xoxo
Urszula


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I've always felt there must be more to life than just going to school, working, cooking, and cleaning. 
Growing up, this was my mother’s routine, and for a long time, I thought it was mine to follow as well. I believed life was predetermined—shaped by social status and the expectations of those around us. Our family didn’t hold any special status, and I struggled with feelings of inadequacy. I thought of myself as ugly, too short, too heavy—frankly, I didn't like myself much at all.

But as I grew older, I began to feel a growing discomfort. I knew deep down that I wanted something different from life, something more. It took me years to understand that we are often shaped by others' expectations—parents, teachers, society—and that we can lose our true identity when we conform to someone else's vision of who we should be. I fell into that trap, and it led to poor decisions and a deep yearning for love, attention, and happiness. But no matter how hard I searched, I couldn’t find it outside of myself.

Growing up in Eastern Europe had a profound effect on my belief system. I didn’t feel like I had a voice, and when my family immigrated to Canada, that feeling intensified. I didn’t speak English, and the frustration of not being able to express myself made me feel even more lost and isolated. I struggled to belong, feeling like I didn’t fit in anywhere, and that emotional rollercoaster was slowly breaking me down. I had no idea who I was or what my purpose was on this planet.

To make matters worse, as I entered menopause, my health started to deteriorate. I felt sore, exhausted, uncomfortable, and trapped in a body that wasn’t listening to me. I was desperate for relief. Does any of this sound familiar?

For years, I struggled to reconnect with my true self, but I never gave up. I knew in my heart that the key to peace, happiness, and health was finding and following my own path. After countless books, webinars, and guidance from holistic teachers and coaches, I finally realized something powerful: I could rewrite my own story. I wasn’t stuck with the old programming I had absorbed—I could change the narrative.

Was it easy? Absolutely not. But the journey was worth every step. Rebuilding myself from the inside out, letting go of limiting beliefs, and embracing my body—just as it is—allowed me to finally live a life of joy and fulfillment. I’m still a work in progress, but that’s part of the beauty of life: it’s always evolving.
Through self-care, self-love, and total acceptance of who I am, I gained the confidence and courage to live a life of true freedom. Now, I am the author of my own fairy tale, fully owning my story and loving myself along the way. It’s the bravest thing I’ve ever done.

If you’re looking for inspiration or simply someone to share your journey with, let’s connect! I would love to hear your story, answer your questions, or just chat. Feel free to message me on social media or email me anytime—I’d love to hear from you!

xoxo

Urszula

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