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The Mother Wound: A Story of Pain, Perspective, and the Path to Healing

Apr 22, 2025 09:18 PM Central
Urszula Kudla
healing, mentalhealth, mother, motherwounds, selfcare, Selflove, selfworth
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The mother wound runs deep—but so does the strength to heal it. In this personal reflection, I explore how shifting from blame to compassion helped me uncover not only my mother’s wounds but my own power to break the generational cycle. This is the story of pain, perspective, and healing—for ourselves, our mothers, and the lineage we come from.

Are Your Sticky Thoughts Holding You Back?

Mar 5, 2025 07:39 PM Central
Urszula Kudla
healing, journaling, mentalhealth, personaldewelopment, regret, selfcare, Selflove, shame
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Are your thoughts holding you hostage? We all have sticky thoughts and emotions that replay in our minds—regrets, self-doubt, or painful memories that refuse to let go. They drain our energy, steal our joy, and keep us stuck in the past. But what if you could break free? Letting go is possible with the right tools and mindset. Discover how to release what no longer serves you and reclaim your peace. Ready to start your journey to freedom?

How Do We Heal the Wounds of Guilt, Shame, Regret, and Self-Judgment?

Jun 26, 2024 02:43 PM Central
Urszula Kudla
guilt, healing, judgment, mentalhealth, personaldewelopment, regret, selfcare, Selflove, shame
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Discover the path to healing from guilt, shame, regret, and self-judgment.

Join us as we explore practical steps and heartfelt stories to reclaim your peace and self-love. Start your journey to a brighter, more compassionate self today.

RECOGNIZING DARVO: What is the DARVO Method?

May 27, 2024 01:23 PM Central
Urszula Kudla
DARVO, mentalhealth, Narcissism, personaldewelopment, relationship, selfcare
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Understanding psychological manipulation tactics is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships and protecting oneself from abuse. DARVO, an acronym for Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender, is a common strategy used by narcissists to confuse, shame, and silence their victims. In this blog post, we'll explore what DARVO is, share a personal experience, delve into its psychological roots, and discuss how to recognize and handle this damaging manipulation tactic. If you've ever felt bewildered or doubted your reality in a relationship, this post will help you identify and break free from the cycle of abuse.

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I've always felt there must be more to life than just going to school, working, cooking, and cleaning.

Growing up, this was my mother’s routine, and for a long time, I thought it was mine to follow as well. I believed life was predetermined—shaped by social status and the expectations of those around us. Our family didn’t hold any special status, and I struggled with feelings of inadequacy. I thought of myself as ugly, too short, too heavy—frankly, I didn't like myself much at all.

But as I grew older, I began to feel a growing discomfort. I knew deep down that I wanted something different from life, something more. It took me years to understand that we are often shaped by others' expectations—parents, teachers, society—and that we can lose our true identity when we conform to someone else's vision of who we should be. I fell into that trap, and it led to poor decisions and a deep yearning for love, attention, and happiness. But no matter how hard I searched, I couldn’t find it outside of myself.

Growing up in Eastern Europe had a profound effect on my belief system. I didn’t feel like I had a voice, and when my family immigrated to Canada, that feeling intensified. I didn’t speak English, and the frustration of not being able to express myself made me feel even more lost and isolated. I struggled to belong, feeling like I didn’t fit in anywhere, and that emotional rollercoaster was slowly breaking me down. I had no idea who I was or what my purpose was on this planet.

To make matters worse, as I entered menopause, my health started to deteriorate. I felt sore, exhausted, uncomfortable, and trapped in a body that wasn’t listening to me. I was desperate for relief. Does any of this sound familiar?

For years, I struggled to reconnect with my true self, but I never gave up. I knew in my heart that the key to peace, happiness, and health was finding and following my own path. After countless books, webinars, and guidance from holistic teachers and coaches, I finally realized something powerful: I could rewrite my own story. I wasn’t stuck with the old programming I had absorbed—I could change the narrative.

Was it easy? Absolutely not. But the journey was worth every step. Rebuilding myself from the inside out, letting go of limiting beliefs, and embracing my body—just as it is—allowed me to finally live a life of joy and fulfillment. I’m still a work in progress, but that’s part of the beauty of life: it’s always evolving.

Through self-care, self-love, and total acceptance of who I am, I gained the confidence and courage to live a life of true freedom. Now, I am the author of my own fairy tale, fully owning my story and loving myself along the way. It’s the bravest thing I’ve ever done.

If you’re looking for inspiration or simply someone to share your journey with, let’s connect! I would love to hear your story, answer your questions, or just chat. Feel free to message me on social media or email me anytime—I’d love to hear from you!

xoxo

Urszula

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Designed to be ME is my new motto.

Hi, I’m Urszula! I’m a proud mama of three, wife to an amazing man, and caretaker to one delightful cat. But beyond that, I’m a dedicated self-care mentor and EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) practitioner, passionate about empowering women to discover their own inner healer. My mission is to help women unlock their fullest potential and live lives that are deeply fulfilling, balanced, and aligned with their true selves.

Through my work in holistic health, I guide individuals on a journey to optimal well-being—nurturing the mind, body, and spirit. I incorporate powerful tools like EFT tapping, journaling, meditation, and transformative retreats to support personal growth and healing. Together, we work to release emotional blockages and cultivate a life filled with purpose and joy.

I’m also deeply passionate about creating resources to support others on their self-love journeys. From affirmation cards to beautifully designed journals and digital books, I’ve developed tools that help foster gratitude, positivity, and deep self-acceptance. These tools are born from my own personal journey—a path filled with both challenges and triumphs—which has fueled my desire to uplift and inspire others through my story.

I truly believe in the power of a healthy mindset, the importance of self-care, and the magic of practicing empowering habits that align with who you really are. Whether it’s walking on the beach, biking through nature, or dancing to my heart’s content, I cherish the small moments that nurture my soul. I’m also a huge advocate for natural living and non-toxic beauty, believing that what we put on and in our bodies should enhance our well-being, not compromise it.

While there are many wellness coaches and mentors out there, I bring something uniquely me to the table. I’m proud to stand in my authenticity and to share my journey with you, embracing my motto: Designed to be ME. It’s been a long road to self-discovery, and I’m so happy to be living as my truest self.

With love and gratitude,

Urszula

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