“In life, you don’t rise to what you believe is possible; you fall to what you believe you’re worthy of.”
—Jamie Kern Lima

For years, I struggled with deep feelings of inadequacy. I saw myself as too short, too heavy, too unworthy—frankly, I didn’t like myself much at all. No matter how much I achieved, there was always that quiet, persistent voice in my head whispering, “You’re not enough.”

And here’s what I’ve learned the hard way:
It wasn’t my talent, intelligence, or potential that was holding me back. It was my self-worth.
This quote by Jamie Kern Lima stopped me in my tracks because it captures something so real:
We don’t fall short because our dreams are too big—we fall short because deep down, we don’t believe we deserve them.
We may want love, success, peace, connection...
But what we allow into our lives will always match what we believe we’re worthy of.

The Power of Self-Worth
Self-worth is quiet. It doesn’t scream. It’s not about perfection, performance, or popularity.
It’s a grounded, steady knowing that you have value simply because you exist.
When you have a strong sense of self-worth, you don’t have to prove anything. You make decisions from a place of inner stability rather than fear or desperation. You begin to honor your time, your energy, your voice.
When you don’t have it, everything gets harder. You may over-explain yourself, stay too long in the wrong places, or undercharge for your work. You may find yourself chasing approval, struggling with boundaries, or constantly second-guessing your worth in a world that profits off your self-doubt.

How Self-Worth Influences Our Actions
The relationship between self-worth and behavior is deep and often invisible. It’s not always what we’re saying—it’s what we’re allowing. What we tolerate. What we don’t ask for.
When self-worth is low, we:
  • Apologize for taking up space
  • Settle for less than we need or desire
  • Talk ourselves out of applying, speaking up, or showing up
  • Avoid risk because we fear rejection more than we trust ourselves
And the world mirrors that back. Not because we aren’t good enough—but because we’re quietly telling it not to give us more.
The truth is, you can have all the potential in the world, but if you don’t feel worthy of the life you desire, you will block it. You’ll resist it. Or you’ll push it away as soon as it gets close.

How to Cultivate a Strong Sense of Self-Worth

Self-worth isn’t something you’re born with or without. It’s something you can nurture. Like any relationship, it grows when you pay attention to it, speak kindly to it, and show up consistently.

Here are a few practices that have helped me rebuild mine:

Speak to Yourself with Compassion
Notice your inner dialogue. Is it kind? Is it patient?
Most of us speak to ourselves in ways we would never speak to someone we love. Begin to change that voice—not through fake positivity, but through truth. Replace “I’m such a failure” with “I’m learning, and I’m doing the best I can.”

Honor Your Energy
Every time you say yes when you want to say no, you send yourself a message that your needs don’t matter. Start small. Protect your time. Set boundaries. Trust that honoring yourself is not selfish—it’s self-respect.

Celebrate Progress, Not Perfection
Don’t wait to feel worthy until you “arrive.” Start celebrating the effort, the growth, the courage it takes to keep going. Every small step matters. Every choice to show up for yourself builds self-trust—and self-trust is the foundation of worth.

Surround Yourself with Reflective People
We all need mirrors—people who reflect our light back to us. Be mindful of who you let into your inner world. Are they supportive? Do they see you? Or do they feed your doubts? Choose community that helps you rise.

Embracing Your Worthiness
This isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about remembering who you were before the world told you otherwise.
You were born with worth. You didn’t have to earn it then, and you don’t have to earn it now.
So much of healing is simply reclaiming what’s always been yours.
You are worthy of love that feels safe.
You are worthy of rest, even when there’s more to do.
You are worthy of joy, not just survival.
You are worthy of your own forgiveness, softness, and grace.
You don’t have to chase your worth—you only have to stop running from it.

As Jamie Kern Lima said, “You don’t rise to what you believe is possible; you fall to what you believe you’re worthy of.”
So the question is not, “Can I do it?”
The question is, “Do I believe I’m worthy of having it?”
Let today be the day you stop shrinking yourself to fit into spaces that were never meant to hold all of you.
Your worth is not up for debate.
You don’t have to hustle for it, hide for it, or hurt for it.
You simply have to claim it.
You are already enough.

You’ve set your intentions. Now nurture them.
Your dreams grow where self-love is planted.
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Xoxo
Urszula 

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I've always felt there must be more to life than just going to school, working, cooking, and cleaning. 
Growing up, this was my mother’s routine, and for a long time, I thought it was mine to follow as well. I believed life was predetermined—shaped by social status and the expectations of those around us. Our family didn’t hold any special status, and I struggled with feelings of inadequacy. I thought of myself as ugly, too short, too heavy—frankly, I didn't like myself much at all.

But as I grew older, I began to feel a growing discomfort. I knew deep down that I wanted something different from life, something more. It took me years to understand that we are often shaped by others' expectations—parents, teachers, society—and that we can lose our true identity when we conform to someone else's vision of who we should be. I fell into that trap, and it led to poor decisions and a deep yearning for love, attention, and happiness. But no matter how hard I searched, I couldn’t find it outside of myself.

Growing up in Eastern Europe had a profound effect on my belief system. I didn’t feel like I had a voice, and when my family immigrated to Canada, that feeling intensified. I didn’t speak English, and the frustration of not being able to express myself made me feel even more lost and isolated. I struggled to belong, feeling like I didn’t fit in anywhere, and that emotional rollercoaster was slowly breaking me down. I had no idea who I was or what my purpose was on this planet.

To make matters worse, as I entered menopause, my health started to deteriorate. I felt sore, exhausted, uncomfortable, and trapped in a body that wasn’t listening to me. I was desperate for relief. Does any of this sound familiar?

For years, I struggled to reconnect with my true self, but I never gave up. I knew in my heart that the key to peace, happiness, and health was finding and following my own path. After countless books, webinars, and guidance from holistic teachers and coaches, I finally realized something powerful: I could rewrite my own story. I wasn’t stuck with the old programming I had absorbed—I could change the narrative.

Was it easy? Absolutely not. But the journey was worth every step. Rebuilding myself from the inside out, letting go of limiting beliefs, and embracing my body—just as it is—allowed me to finally live a life of joy and fulfillment. I’m still a work in progress, but that’s part of the beauty of life: it’s always evolving.
Through self-care, self-love, and total acceptance of who I am, I gained the confidence and courage to live a life of true freedom. Now, I am the author of my own fairy tale, fully owning my story and loving myself along the way. It’s the bravest thing I’ve ever done.

If you’re looking for inspiration or simply someone to share your journey with, let’s connect! I would love to hear your story, answer your questions, or just chat. Feel free to message me on social media or email me anytime—I’d love to hear from you!

xoxo

Urszula

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