Transform Your Inner Dialogue: Banish Negative Self-Talk

For years, I was stuck in a harmful loop, constantly telling myself, “I am not good enough.”
Most of us struggle with some variation of the “I’m not good enough, I don’t deserve, I am not worthy” track playing in our heads. It's a powerful habit that can sabotage all your efforts to change or achieve anything!
This self-defeating mindset can prevent you from applying for your dream job, accepting a date, venturing into entrepreneurship, writing the book you’ve always wanted to, or even trying out a new hairstyle. The variations of "I'm not slim enough," "I'm not smart enough," or simply "not enough," are endless, and your mind likely knows exactly what your personal "not enough" is.
Here’s the good news: change is within your reach!
Research indicates that only 5% of our daily operations are controlled by our conscious mind, while a whopping 95% is run by our subconscious. This means the real power to change lies within the subconscious mind. Recognizing this, I explored methods to reprogram my deep-seated beliefs and found tools that worked wonders for me.
If you're struggling with similar negative beliefs, here’s what I recommend based on my experience:



Effective Tools for Releasing Negative Beliefs:
  • Journaling: Writing down your thoughts can significantly help in processing and understanding them.
  • EFT Tapping: This technique is great for physically altering your body’s energy system.
  • Affirmations: Repeated positive statements can rewire your thinking patterns.

Not sure where to start? Here are a few practical steps:


1. Identify and Write Down Negative Beliefs: Grab a notebook and jot down all the negative beliefs that prevent you from living fully. This is your first step towards acknowledging and tackling them.

2. Craft Clearing Statements: For each negative belief, write a clearing statement. Here's how you might frame these:
  • "Every story I've told myself that supports the belief 'I am not good enough,' I now transmute, clear across all dimensions of time and reality, and replace it with love and light."
  • "I release every narrative that undermines my confidence, clearing these across all realms and filling the void with positivity."
  • "For every belief that I do not deserve the best in life, I transmute and clear it, infusing the space with love and light."
3. Use Clearing Statements Actively: Focus on one statement at a time and pair it with positive affirmations that reinforce how you want to feel about yourself.

4. Repeat Often: Continue with these practices regularly until you feel a significant shift in your mindset. You'll know the work is done when there’s nothing left to clear.


Embrace the power of positive affirmations:

transform your mindset and reinforce your journey towards self-love and fulfillment. 
Start each day by affirming your worth with these powerful statements:

  1. I am worthy of my dreams and deserve to achieve them.
  2. I possess the strength to create positive changes in my life.
  3. I am confident in my ability to solve problems and make good decisions.
  4. I am deserving of love, happiness, and fulfillment.
  5. I trust in my journey and embrace each step towards my goals.
  6. I am a unique, valuable individual with much to offer the world.
  7. I am capable of overcoming any challenges that come my way.
  8. I am in control of my happiness; I choose positivity and peace.
  9. I am resilient, strong, and brave.
  10. I love myself fully, including my flaws and strengths.
Repeating these affirmations can significantly impact your internal dialogue, helping to drown out the negative thoughts and replace them with a narrative of empowerment and self-acceptance. For a more comprehensive collection of affirmations, I recommend checking out our affirmation cards deck HERE, which offers a wide range of inspiring statements to support your path to self-love.


Remember, no one has the power to make you
 feel inadequate without your consent. 
Empower yourself by transforming 
the internal dialogue from criticism to support.

 You are more than good enough, 
and it’s time your subconscious knows it, too.


Xoxo

Urszula



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I've always felt there must be more to life than just going to school, working, cooking, and cleaning. 
Growing up, this was my mother’s routine, and for a long time, I thought it was mine to follow as well. I believed life was predetermined—shaped by social status and the expectations of those around us. Our family didn’t hold any special status, and I struggled with feelings of inadequacy. I thought of myself as ugly, too short, too heavy—frankly, I didn't like myself much at all.

But as I grew older, I began to feel a growing discomfort. I knew deep down that I wanted something different from life, something more. It took me years to understand that we are often shaped by others' expectations—parents, teachers, society—and that we can lose our true identity when we conform to someone else's vision of who we should be. I fell into that trap, and it led to poor decisions and a deep yearning for love, attention, and happiness. But no matter how hard I searched, I couldn’t find it outside of myself.

Growing up in Eastern Europe had a profound effect on my belief system. I didn’t feel like I had a voice, and when my family immigrated to Canada, that feeling intensified. I didn’t speak English, and the frustration of not being able to express myself made me feel even more lost and isolated. I struggled to belong, feeling like I didn’t fit in anywhere, and that emotional rollercoaster was slowly breaking me down. I had no idea who I was or what my purpose was on this planet.

To make matters worse, as I entered menopause, my health started to deteriorate. I felt sore, exhausted, uncomfortable, and trapped in a body that wasn’t listening to me. I was desperate for relief. Does any of this sound familiar?

For years, I struggled to reconnect with my true self, but I never gave up. I knew in my heart that the key to peace, happiness, and health was finding and following my own path. After countless books, webinars, and guidance from holistic teachers and coaches, I finally realized something powerful: I could rewrite my own story. I wasn’t stuck with the old programming I had absorbed—I could change the narrative.

Was it easy? Absolutely not. But the journey was worth every step. Rebuilding myself from the inside out, letting go of limiting beliefs, and embracing my body—just as it is—allowed me to finally live a life of joy and fulfillment. I’m still a work in progress, but that’s part of the beauty of life: it’s always evolving.
Through self-care, self-love, and total acceptance of who I am, I gained the confidence and courage to live a life of true freedom. Now, I am the author of my own fairy tale, fully owning my story and loving myself along the way. It’s the bravest thing I’ve ever done.

If you’re looking for inspiration or simply someone to share your journey with, let’s connect! I would love to hear your story, answer your questions, or just chat. Feel free to message me on social media or email me anytime—I’d love to hear from you!

xoxo

Urszula

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