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Read more...This morning, over coffee, a quote from Pope Francis reminded me of something we often forget: the perfect family doesn’t exist. Real love shows up in the mess, in the hard moments, in three small but powerful phrases—"May I?", "Thank you," and "I'm sorry." In this post, I share what family, healing, and radical self-care have taught me about showing up with grace, even when life isn’t perfect.
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A Journey from Survival Mode to Mind-Body-Spirit BalanceI used to think self-care was something you did once you had time, money, or permission.
A bubble bath.
A weekend getaway.
A treat after burning yourself out again.
A weekend getaway.
A treat after burning yourself out again.
But the truth is, I didn’t even know what real self-care meant—because for most of my life, I wasn’t living. I was surviving.
I was born and raised in a small village in Europ, where life was shaped by fear—both political and religious. Under the shadow of communism and church leadership, I was conditioned to believe in sacrifice, shame, and silence. What I learned early on was how to endure, not how to thrive.
Most of my adult life followed the same pattern:
Pushing through pain
Minimizing my needs
Procrastinating on my dreams
Feeling unworthy of more
Pushing through pain
Minimizing my needs
Procrastinating on my dreams
Feeling unworthy of more
I failed in businesses. My health suffered. My mind was filled with self-doubt.
And underneath it all, there was one silent addiction that ran the show:
Unworthiness.
It was the belief I inherited. The belief I unconsciously nurtured.
And the belief that nearly cost me my life.
And the belief that nearly cost me my life.
Menopause Saved Me
At 45, everything started to unravel.
My body began sending signals I could no longer ignore—fatigue, hormonal chaos, emotional spirals. And while most people dread menopause, I often say, “Menopause saved my life.” And I mean it.
Because it cracked me open.
It forced me to stop surviving.
It invited me to finally, deeply pay attention.
It forced me to stop surviving.
It invited me to finally, deeply pay attention.
I began to explore natural healing—herbs, essential oils, holistic nutrition. I dove into the science of the body.
I started asking real questions. For the first time, I began to understand that self-care isn’t something you buy—it’s something you live.
What Real Self-Care Looks Like
This past week on social media, I shared daily reflections on what Self-Care That Heals really means.
Not the kind of self-care that performs for Instagram…
But the kind that meets you in the mirror when you’re falling apart.
But the kind that meets you in the mirror when you’re falling apart.
Here’s what I’ve learned:
- Self-care is not just about the body—it’s about your mind and spirit too.
- It’s not about productivity. It’s about presence.
- It’s not about doing more. It’s about coming home to yourself.
Some days, it looks like drinking water and going to bed early.
Other days, it looks like journaling, crying, resting, breathing, or asking yourself:
"What do I need right now?"
Other days, it looks like journaling, crying, resting, breathing, or asking yourself:
"What do I need right now?"
It’s setting boundaries.
Letting go of guilt.
Releasing what no longer serves you—and choosing, again and again, to live with intention.
Letting go of guilt.
Releasing what no longer serves you—and choosing, again and again, to live with intention.
One of the most profound pieces of this journey has been emotional healing.
I call it emotional detoxing—the practice of letting go of past pain that no longer belongs in your present.
I call it emotional detoxing—the practice of letting go of past pain that no longer belongs in your present.
When we carry unprocessed emotions—grief, shame, fear, resentment—it doesn't just affect our mood.
It impacts our health, our relationships, and even our abundance.
It impacts our health, our relationships, and even our abundance.
Thousands of studies show that our emotional state directly influences our biology:
Gene expression
Nervous system regulation
Gut health and hormones
Immunity and detox pathways
Gene expression
Nervous system regulation
Gut health and hormones
Immunity and detox pathways
And it works both ways:
Our diet, movement, gut health, and lifestyle choices also affect our emotional state.
Our diet, movement, gut health, and lifestyle choices also affect our emotional state.
That’s why holistic self-care—mind, body, and spirit—is not optional. It’s essential.
For years, I was stuck in survival mode and didn’t even realize it.
I kept myself busy, distracted, and disconnected.
I kept myself busy, distracted, and disconnected.
It wasn’t until I slowed down and chose to listen inward that I began to heal.
Today, I still have hard days. Life hasn’t become perfect. But it’s become mine.
I no longer see self-care as something indulgent.
I see it as a sacred responsibility—to myself, to my purpose, and to my future.
I no longer see self-care as something indulgent.
I see it as a sacred responsibility—to myself, to my purpose, and to my future.
Want to Start Your Own Journey?
If this speaks to your heart, I created a free Self-Love Journal to help you begin.It’s a simple, powerful guide to reconnect with your body, your truth, and your worth—one page at a time.
Because healing is possible.
Because you are worthy of more.
And because you don’t have to wait for a breakdown to begin again.
Because you are worthy of more.
And because you don’t have to wait for a breakdown to begin again.
Xoxo
Urszula
The mother wound runs deep—but so does the strength to heal it. In this personal reflection, I explore how shifting from blame to compassion helped me uncover not only my mother’s wounds but my own power to break the generational cycle. This is the story of pain, perspective, and healing—for ourselves, our mothers, and the lineage we come from.
For years, I believed my worth was something I had to earn.
If I looked better, worked harder, or achieved more—then I’d finally feel like I was enough.
But no amount of accomplishment could fill the quiet gap left by self-doubt.
The truth is, self-worth isn’t found in doing—it’s found in remembering who you are.
If I looked better, worked harder, or achieved more—then I’d finally feel like I was enough.
But no amount of accomplishment could fill the quiet gap left by self-doubt.
The truth is, self-worth isn’t found in doing—it’s found in remembering who you are.
This post explores how your sense of worth silently shapes your life, how to reclaim it, and why believing you’re enough might be the most powerful thing you ever do.
This New Moon in Aries and Solar Eclipse isn’t just another celestial event—it’s a cosmic reset. A powerful portal for releasing old identities, rewriting your inner story, and stepping boldly into your next chapter.
If you’re a Projector in Human Design (like me), this moment is especially potent for letting go of past misrecognitions and calling in aligned invitations that reflect your growth.
You’re not who you were—and that’s exactly the point.
This is your invitation to rise, real and radiant.
This is your invitation to rise, real and radiant.
We often hear the advice: 'Control your mind.' But what does that really mean? If you’ve ever tried to stop your thoughts, you know it’s impossible—the more you resist, the stronger they become. True mental freedom isn’t about silencing thoughts; it’s about choosing which ones deserve your attention. In this post, I break down the illusion of control, the power of awareness, and practical ways to train your mind without exhaustion. Ready to shift your perspective? Let’s dive in.
Read more...Are your thoughts holding you hostage? We all have sticky thoughts and emotions that replay in our minds—regrets, self-doubt, or painful memories that refuse to let go. They drain our energy, steal our joy, and keep us stuck in the past. But what if you could break free? Letting go is possible with the right tools and mindset. Discover how to release what no longer serves you and reclaim your peace. Ready to start your journey to freedom?
Read more...February’s Snow Moon in Leo is here, bringing a powerful mix of resilience, confidence, and bold transformation. Traditionally named for the heavy snowfall of this time, the Snow Moon symbolizes endurance and renewal. But with the fiery energy of Leo, this full moon is calling you to step into your power, embrace creativity, and release anything holding you back.
Ready to harness its magic? Discover the meaning behind this lunar phase and try a simple Full Moon Ritual to clear old energy, set fearless intentions, and celebrate your authentic self.
Shine bright—you were made for this!
Pineapples are a tropical delight that carry not only a burst of sweetness but also a story of patience and wonder. Unlike many fruits, their growth process is unique and fascinating. Here’s an inside look at how pineapples are cultivated, their growth timeline, and what makes them so special.How Pineapples Grow
Pineapples grow on a spiky, low-lying plant that is part of the bromeliad family. Rather than growing on trees, pineapples emerge from the center of the plant, crowning the top of a thick stem. Each plant produces only one fruit at a time, making it a precious yield.
Patience is Key
Growing a pineapple is not for the impatient gardener! Pineapples are commonly grown from the leafy crown of an existing fruit. This crown is planted in well-drained soil in a warm climate. It takes approximately 18 months for the first fruit to grow and mature. During this time, the plant requires consistent sunlight, water, and care.
After the first pineapple is harvested, the plant will grow a smaller "ratoon crop" about 12 months later. This second fruit is typically smaller and less robust than the first. Each pineapple plant produces one fruit per cycle. After the second harvest, the plant generally declines in productivity, and farmers often plant a new crop.
The Sweet Reward
The long wait for a pineapple is worth every moment. Its juicy, golden flesh is not only delicious but also packed with vitamins, enzymes, and antioxidants. Each fruit is a labor of love, representing years of care and cultivation.
So, the next time you slice into a pineapple, take a moment to reflect on the patience and dedication it took to reach your table.
Be patient like a pineapple farmer
Much like a pineapple, our dreams often take time to mature. In a world that craves instant results, we may feel tempted to give up when progress isn’t immediately visible.
But consider the farmer planting a pineapple crown, trusting that unseen growth is happening beneath the surface. What if we chose to believe that magic is unfolding in our lives, even when we can’t see it? What if we trusted that God and Mother Nature are working behind the scenes, nurturing the seeds we’ve planted?
Our role is to tend to our thoughts, pull out the weeds of doubt, and water our minds with joy and optimism.
Like a pineapple farmer, be patient and consistent. Water your dreams, and in time, they will ripen and bring sweetness to your life.
Xoxo
Urszula
As we approach the busiest time of the year, it's easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of activities.
With Christmas on the horizon, our days quickly fill up with shopping, cooking, attending holiday parties, and welcoming family visits. In today’s fast-paced world, where every minute seems accounted for, it’s all too easy to rush from one task to the next without taking a moment to breathe.
But it's precisely during these hectic periods that the simple act of pausing becomes more crucial than ever. Pausing, although it might seem like a small act, can profoundly impact our well-being and mindset. When we take a moment to stop, we give ourselves a chance to slow down, to really notice what’s happening within us, and to consciously decide how we want to respond to the events unfolding around us.
Pausing provides us with that much-needed space to breathe and be present. It allows us to connect with our emotions, helping us understand and manage them better, rather than letting them control our reactions. This brief stop can help recalibrate our thoughts and bring our focus back to what truly matters.
Moreover, reconnecting with the present through a pause can be incredibly grounding. It reminds us that we are here, now, and that this moment is as significant as any other. Although pausing may feel like inactivity, it is, in fact, a powerful choice. It's an active decision to not let life just happen to us, but to live it fully and intentionally.
So, as you navigate through the festive chaos, remember the power in the pause. It doesn’t need to be long—a few seconds of mindfulness, a brief moment to breathe deeply, or just time to feel the sensations around you can be incredibly refreshing. Each pause is a step back to yourself, a gentle reminder that amidst the holiday rush, you are important, and caring for your mental and emotional health is vital.
This season, let’s not just survive the holiday rush; let’s enjoy it. Let’s make time to celebrate our presence in the small moments, cherish our connections, and nurture our spirits. After all, taking care of yourself is perhaps the best gift you can give to yourself—and to others.
Xoxo
Urszula
How much joy are you allowing into your life?
For many years, I unknowingly kept joy at a distance—not because I didn’t want to feel it, but because my belief system wouldn’t allow me to fully embrace or express it. The idea of feeling joyful made me uncomfortable, almost as if I were breaking an unspoken rule. It wasn’t until much later in life that I realized I had a subconscious program—one I had unknowingly created—that was “protecting” me from joy.
As a child, I developed a belief that showing joy could get me into trouble. To avoid that imagined risk, I’d learned to sabotage joyful moments, not consciously, but as a safety procedure my mind had set on autopilot. Anytime joy emerged, this belief stepped in and quietly shut it down.
Throughout my self-development journey, I’d often reflected on my relationship with joy, but I couldn’t quite grasp what was holding me back. It wasn’t until I began embracing holistic self-care and using techniques like EFT tapping that I started to unravel these old, unneeded safety mechanisms. As I released these outdated programs, something beautiful happened: my life and health began to improve. I started enjoying life in ways I had only dreamed of.
Finding Joy as a Key to Healing
Joy became a cornerstone of my healing, and I realized just how essential it is to the wellness journey. My mission now is to help others ignite joy in their lives, too, because joy isn’t just a fleeting feeling—it’s transformative, life-giving, and deeply healing.
In my work, I’m developing programs to help people rediscover joy. There’s nothing more fulfilling than this, and one of these programs will be a joyful retreat in one of my favorite destinations. If this resonates with you, stay tuned and sign up for updates—I’d love to have you join me!
What is Joy?
Joy is a powerful feeling, a deep, uplifting sense of happiness that radiates from within. Unlike fleeting pleasure, joy is enduring, often arising from meaningful connections, personal fulfillment, or a sense of harmony with oneself and the world. It’s that lightness that brings a spontaneous smile, fills us with energy, and leaves us feeling at peace. Joy can be sparked by small, everyday moments—a laugh with a friend, a beautiful sunrise, a moment of accomplishment—and grows from gratitude, presence, and alignment with our authentic selves. Unlike happiness that can waver with circumstances, joy is rooted in inner satisfaction and can remain steady even through life’s ups and downs.Can Joy Actually Heal?
Absolutely—joy can be profoundly healing. It’s more than a moment of happiness; it’s a powerful force with the ability to impact both mind and body in meaningful ways. Here’s how joy can serve as a healing force:
- Reduces Stress: Experiencing joy triggers the release of endorphins and other “feel-good” hormones that counter stress and combat feelings of anxiety or depression. Reduced stress can enhance immune function, cardiovascular health, and resilience.
- Promotes Physical Health: Joyful experiences have been shown to reduce inflammation and lower blood pressure, creating a healthier environment in the body. Research has linked positive emotions with a lower risk of chronic illnesses, as joy supports a balanced nervous system and fosters healing.
- Improves Mental Well-Being: Joy helps shift our focus from negative thoughts, fostering an optimistic outlook. This resilience boosts our ability to cope with life’s challenges and aids healing from trauma, loss, or pain.
- Strengthens Relationships: Sharing joy with others deepens bonds and provides emotional support. Feeling connected can be profoundly healing, alleviating loneliness or isolation and fostering a sense of belonging.
- Encourages Personal Growth: Joy fuels creativity, curiosity, and motivation, inspiring us to explore new perspectives and seek meaningful experiences. This growth brings purpose and fulfillment, contributing to mental and emotional health
So, yes—joy can be a transformative, revitalizing force that nurtures us on multiple levels. Embracing joy isn’t just about feeling good in the moment; it’s about cultivating well-being that enhances our entire life.
Embrace Your Journey with Joy
Rediscovering joy has brought so much light and healing into my life, and I want the same for each of you. It’s my hope to inspire and support others in finding their own joy-filled paths. If you’re ready to explore a life infused with joy and vitality, keep an eye out for my upcoming programs and joyful retreats designed to guide you on this journey.
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Let’s welcome joy back into our lives—one radiant, healing moment at a time.
"Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy." – Thich Nhat Hanh
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Understanding psychological manipulation tactics is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships and protecting oneself from abuse. DARVO, an acronym for Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender, is a common strategy used by narcissists to confuse, shame, and silence their victims. In this blog post, we'll explore what DARVO is, share a personal experience, delve into its psychological roots, and discuss how to recognize and handle this damaging manipulation tactic. If you've ever felt bewildered or doubted your reality in a relationship, this post will help you identify and break free from the cycle of abuse.
For years, I was stuck in a harmful loop, constantly telling myself, “I am not good enough.”Most of us struggle with some variation of the “I’m not good enough, I don’t deserve, I am not worthy” track playing in our heads. It's a powerful habit that can sabotage all your efforts to change or achieve anything!
This self-defeating mindset can prevent you from applying for your dream job, accepting a date, venturing into entrepreneurship, writing the book you’ve always wanted to, or even trying out a new hairstyle. The variations of "I'm not slim enough," "I'm not smart enough," or simply "not enough," are endless, and your mind likely knows exactly what your personal "not enough" is.
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Navigating the trendy seas of “Love yourself”, “Be yourself” and “Be happy” feels a bit like being handed a map without any directions. Everyone tells you where to go, but nobody shows you how to get there. So when someone tossed the “You have to love yourself more” advice my way a few years back, as my life seemed to veer off course, I was stumped. “But how?” I quizzed, genuinely puzzled. Their response? “The same way you love your children, or anyone truly dear to you.” Hmm, easier said than done, I thought.
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